I’m a she-hulk, What are you?

When I’m in the gym I want more muscle, but when I leave here I’m not so sure.

As a woman who lifts and carries more muscle than the average person might like, I can somewhat relate to this statement.  In the gym you’re in your environment where people know you.  Lifting heavy, having delts and veins popping out is accepted and celebrated.  Once outside that environment there’s a good chance you’re gonna run into people that just don’t get it.  Worse yet you run into the idiots of the world that think it’s okay to ask or say the most off the wall shit.

Comments like:

I bet your man listens to everything you say or you might beat him up.

Those legs could probably crush a skull.

I bet you could pick me up and carry me.

Ewww you’re looking way too big, pretty soon you’re gonna be mistaken for a lesbian (because all lesbians lift weights duh).

It’s annoying to say the least especially when you’re dressed up and trying to look “girlie” yet you have the feeling that the minute you turn around your back will break the seams in your dress and that would probably send” I bet you could pick me up and carry me” guy into a frenzy.

They dont make clothes for girls that lift..

Cause sometimes we break seams….

Worse yet, when comments come from other females or people that are supposed to care about you. What happened to just keeping quiet if you have nothing of value to say?

I’ll be completely honest; outside the gym I sometimes intentionally wear long sleeves because that’s easier than feeling like a sideshow that is going to flex on command.   Besides, I’m pretty sure there are sub sites for that these days.

What do you mean I’m not everyone’s cup of tea?!

Let’s face reality for a moment, you will never please or have the acceptance of everyone…hard to believe, I know.   Yes, there will be those moments when people say some hurtful things and make you question your path.  Put a video on Youtube, or open an Instagram account and you’ll find out very quickly what people think about you be it positive, or negative.  Unfortunately, I think people tend to internalize the negative.  You have to reach a point where you let comments roll off and not affect your inner happiness.  Some days are easier than others and I’m definitely not above getting upset at times where I want to reach through the screen and squeeze the life out of the person on the other end (with my massive thighs of course).

That feeling quickly passes though when I remember why I go to the gym. I love being strong, muscular with callused hands and bruised shins even if that means sometimes I’m ridiculed for it. I love knowing that I can do things that most of the population can’t do.  I beam with pride when my kids go to school and tell their friends that their mom is the strongest and does handstands.  Most of all I do it because it makes me HAPPY and I like having abs. Of course, when someone draws you as a superhero that’s pretty damn cool too.
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Ultimately, you have to do what makes YOU happy and not be persuaded by the gym crowd or the non gym goers.  Life is way too short to give more than a seconds thought to some asshole you don’t know that doesn’t like your bicep or quad sweep or lack thereof.  Here’s to having the confidence to be who you want to be.

 

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  1. Jesus says:

    keep doing what you’re doing! Don’t listen to the negativity, you’re an inspiration for all of us who are trying to improve ourselves

  2. CodieD says:

    You look awesome!!! Embrace the She-Hulk!

    When I started heavy lifting, I couldn’t believe how many of my close friends and family had negative things to say. The ones I thought would support me the most had some of the most hurtful things to say. 1.5 years and I am still going strong. I was a desk jockey for 10 years and started lifting after a back injury. I refuse to let that happen again. I want to be strong and if that means having big muscles, then so be it!! I love reminders like this post 🙂

  3. Mary Wheeler says:

    I know exactly what you mean about negative comments coming from those close to you. My Mom does not approve of my larger upper body and every now and then she lets me know. She is less than thrilled about my involvement in powerlifting, but I enjoy it too much to quit. Some people just don’t get how much fun it is to be strong. You are an inspiration and keep up the good work.

  4. Freddy says:

    It’s strange how people see others who go to the gym as fair game for negative comments. The other day I bumped into a next door neighbour of mine from my child hood and was met with a “whoa whoa there your getting a bit too big aren’t you?”( if you saw my twitter photos you would laugh at the ridiculousness of that statement..).. as I did until I realised he wasn’t joking.

    I can’t imagine how frustrating it must be for you as a woman, because it’s so engrained in society that women shouldn’t be strong and shouldn’t have muscles. This really surprises me as it’s such an archaic idea to have, and it just shouldn’t be so widely accepted by society in the 21st century. In the UK seeing a lady in the weight room is like seeing a unicorn. When you do see a lady come who is brave enough to break free from the treadmill and venture into the weight room area 9.9/10 they back out and shuffle back to the cardio section. As a PT this frustrates me as there are so many health benefits to lifting weights, and it’s just awesome and fun, and there shouldn’t be a section of society missing out on the fun for no good reason.

    I’m a random guy on your website, but in my humble opinion you shouldn’t feel self conscious out in the world. Let’s be honest you’re a beautiful woman, and just the type of woman who could inspire others to start lifting. Wearing that sleveless top could show others that you can have an athletic physique and still be hot. Or even that they can have their beauty accentuated by an athletic physique. Yeah there will be some naysayers… but so what screw em, they’re probably jealous that you lift whilst all they can do is look longingly from their treadmills wishing they had the guts to step in the weight room.

  5. Claus L. Nielsen says:

    As I said in my comment from your foto shoot…hell,I’ll just copy/paste it here 🙂

    …”Okay first of all…You are AMAZING and BEAUTIFUL !!! (If i wasn’t married..oh and living in Denmark hahaha 🙂
    If those IDIOTS can’t see that, they need their eyes examined !!!

    And about the stretch marks…there are different types of people in that regard..those who never use their bodies and simply wither away with saggy asses and loose skin…those who have stretch marks from loosing at lot of weight be it from obesity or pregnancy or…those of us who have these marks from lifting heavy and gaining muscle 😉 I was once engaged to a girl who was 3 times Danish Bodybuilding Champion 57+kilo…and she had arms and legs and arm-veins bigger than yours…she “suffered” those same remarks as you have…but when she placed second in a 100 miles international walking race(men AND women)…those voices were silenced…before starting the race, she was looked upon as a freak…all other contendes, well they were just skinny and bony…on top of that she was a Tank mechanic in the Danish Army(where I met her) She did several 100km runs…with those big legs and thick arm-veins…in about 10 hours, non stop, only one or two male soldiers could keep up…people started to loosen up on her looks…
    So what is femininity exactly? Well a matter of different opinions…but for me YOU’RE IT !!!
    So go on doing what you love doing…lifting heavy weights and calisthenics 🙂 …”

  6. Claus L. Nielsen says:

    …BTW…Hulk is my favorite…but She-Hulk is so much better looking 🙂

  7. Yalonda says:

    Unfortunately you can’t please the world! Between the haters, the donut eaters, and people who hate you just because you look better than them, you would die trying to please the world! Do you! I think you look BEAUTIFUL! I have always wanted stronger legs and your legs are what I am striving for! So you have a 33 year old female admirer! You motivate me everyday. Thank you for being who you are! Don’t ever change!

  8. you are needed to teach other young women how to be strong and how to ignore idiots and yet remain aware – and also that beauty and strength do go together…keep being yourself and do consider teaching other young women…mentoring is very needed now more than ever…

  9. Marisa Marisa says:

    Thank you so much. You’ll get there just be consistent and it’ll come!

  10. Martin says:

    Always going to be hater / naysayers – who care what they say, do what makes you happy as life is to short not too 😉 keep up the awesome work 😉

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